About Me
Aloha! Ms. Bloggorama Mama here! RoCkin’ Mama of 3 beautiful daughters; a young adult (19), a teen (17) & a tween (12) or aka, Ms. Drama Mama, Ms. Overachiever, & Ms. Socialite. But life just wouldn’t be any sweeter without our ever so spunky-veggie addicted little Yorkie, Gizmo & our very spoiled Chinchilla Persian, Prince.
Looking back on my life, I’ve got to say that I’ve led a pretty interesting one. I’m sure if I ever wrote a book, it would be a best seller! Let’s just say, I’ve seen the good, the bad & definitely the ugly sides of life.
Had the white picket fence ideal of a childhood growing up, which was quickly shattered at 15 years old when my parents uttered the dreadful “D” word-divorce. Then came the remarriage of both parents; the nightmare psycho step-father, the mail order bride step-mom, & my tumultuous/rebellious teen years. Yeah, my step-father was a total dush bag, probably one of the most self-centered, egotistical, abusive control freak cave man you’ll ever meet and step-mom was practically a teen herself. What were you they both thinking??
Well years later, after a devastating break-up & a year living the single life, I was introduced to this rather quiet & stand-offish kinda guy. We didn’t quite hit it off right away. He certainly wasn’t the type of man I’ve ever dated before. But a few months later, we were completely inseparable. I found the love of my life, my knight in shining armor, the father of my children, the man I wanted to grow old with & live my happily ever after with. I found him to be simply amazing. He was such a respectful, kind gentleman. But boy was I wrong. After 11 years of marriage, full of turmoil, countless infidelities, heartbreak & disappointment, it ended in divorce. Not exactly the cards I thought my life would deal. But it is what it is. I didn’t have time to feel sorry for myself or throw myself a huge a$$ pity-party, I just had to pull myself together & be as strong as I could be for the sake of our 3 daughters.
I used to catch myself wondering where it all went wrong. Were we to young & naïve to think we were ready for marriage? Should we have waited? Should I have pushed harder to get some counseling for us? All the what ifs, could haves, should haves. But I truly believe that everything in life happens to help us live. So no matter how good or bad everything has been for me, I am very thankful for every person that has touched my life, for every experience, for every milestone & for every obstacle life threw my way. It has helped me learn, grow & discover the strong woman I am today.
I’ve been a single parenting mama for about 9 years now. Being a product of a divorce family myself, I have chosen to not travel the same path as my parents. I have not remarried, but have kept the focus on raising my children alone. A small sacrifice on my part, but I wanted to be the best role model for them and to show by example, that a woman can be strong & independent. That with strength & perseverance, she can succeed in everything & anything she chooses to do. Life can be very unpredictable & nothing is set in stone, so you need to learn & be prepared to stand on your own two feet first, only then will you be able to give yourself completely with no hesitation. At this point in my life, I wouldn’t mind sharing my wonderful life with Mr. Right. The problem is he hasn’t quite found me yet, but I’m sure when it does happen, it will be forever! =)
Ahhhh….and then there’s motherhood, what can I say. I’m not exactly the cookie cutter image of a “typical” mom. Definitely not a Shirley Partridge (Partridge Family) or a Carol Martin (Brady Bunch).But then how could I be, I grew up during the ”old school” era, with musical influences of Pink Floyd, Black Sabbath, backyard barbecues & parties, a time when “latchkey” kids wasn’t a term, it was the way of life. The teen age years of the 80’s, the big hair, black eyeliner, loud music, rubber bracelets, fishnet stockings, Madonna, Flock of Seagulls, Depeche Mode….Not much has changed, except for the big hair. ;P I still enjoy some of the old stuff, mixed in with the new ways of RockBand, MySpace, Facebook & even Twitter. So when it came to raising my girls, I’ve taken a pretty modern approach. A middle ground between the strictness of my childhood and the openness of this new generation. Things that my mom felt were very taboo to talk about in our household, well let’s just say in my household it’s an open book. No topic is off limits. That’s of course if the youngest one is around, then we’ll keep it PG & save it for another time. =)
I started off on this new chapter of my life, this journey, writing about what I know best. The daily life of a single parent, juggling life, work, kids, all the while trying to keep my sanity intact. Let’s face it, unless you’ve walked, jogged & ran in our shoes, you couldn’t even begin to understand the struggles we face every day. I decided to reach out to other parents in similar situations in hopes to building a great social support network. That’s when
Aloha Tomodachi’z was born!
My recent endeavor is entering the unknown territory of the whole blogging phenomenon. Just another creative outlet, a bit of an open diary of my day to day life. A place where I can share my random thoughts (& they are very random), experiences, advice on just about anything & everything that comes to mind; parenting, motherhood, dating, relationships, sex, work, ways to stretch your budget, great products, current teen trends, you name it, I’ll probably be talking about it.
So if you want to hear from a strong, vivacious, independent, environmentally conscious, a bit of a smarty-pants woman like myself, please keep checking back. {^-^}
